Grief tending is a core offering of Stellar Village!


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Membership is an affordable all-access pass to everything online in the village - grief spaces, Village Hall, community singing, and workshops. Co-create with us!

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Community Grief Practices

The practice of leaning into our grief together, really feeling it in our bodies, bones, and spirits, nourishes belonging and care across all lines of division and oppression.

Grief is a skillset that we grow as a community. This work connects us to each other, to our ancestors, to the land, to our kin of other species, and to our joy and unique gifts.

Feeling into your tears and tenderness are welcome anywhere in Stellar Village.

We also have Grief Spaces, where grief tenders hold the container for us to bravely exploring grief, which can include anger, shame, and many other emotions.

  • Grief & Praise: Fourth Saturdays in Zoom

    Open to All Members

    This is our official monthly grief container for members. 10 am - noon Pacific in our virtual Village Hall on the Fourth Saturday of each month.

    It is co-facilitated by Sabrina Simon in collaboration with other grief tenders in the Grief and Praise format.

    Adapted from Josea Crossley's Through the Dark Woods Grief Support Group, "Grief and Praise" calls lead participants through the pendulation between gratitude and grief through somatic meditation, writing exercises, sharing, song, and movement/dance. This format helps participants to exercise the importance of emotional pendulation, allowing us to tap into deep spaces without slipping into a state of overwhelm or dysregulation.

    These calls are led by Oregon-based grief-tender, Sabrina Simon, with the support of a rotating co-facilitator. All grief is welcome, however each call might have the opportunity to focus on a particular gate of grief.

    For more information on the Gates of Grief, please look inside this course player (link is at the top if you're logged in).

    For more information on Josea's work, please visit her website here.

    Volunteer grief tenders and tech supporters: please email us if you want to be part of this.

  • Other times in the virtual Village Hall

    Brought by Community

    Villagers can apply to bring their own offerings to the Village Hall to nourish the wellbeing of our community and the broader world. Grief tenders all have their own flavor of grief processing experience, and are welcome to apply to hold space within any Village Hall besides for 4th Saturdays (this may change as we grow and can hold multiple grief sessions simultaneously).

    We will have a short proposal form available soon to bring an offering to the Village Hall. All community offerings for Village Hall will be listed on our Community Calendar.

  • Grief Resources

    Online course

    This course player contains resources that help support you in times of grief.

    As with everything else online in the village, this offering is free for members.

Grief Space Coordinator

Sabrina anchors our monthly grief experience in the Village Hall, co-facilitating with other grief tenders from our community.

Sabrina Simon

Sabrina is a world traveler, singer, and a Creatrix and contributor towards a new embodied culture. She uses embodiment practices, ritual, song, yoga, breathwork and Thai yoga massage in a beautifully woven form of facilitating emotional release. She values the processes of emotional release through cathartic expressions along with bringing support and safety to the nervous system.

Sabrina was initiated into her grief work by the loss of her son, Jude, during preterm labor in 2022. Since then, she has made her grief her ally and greatest teacher. She aims to bring the conscious tending of grief to her communities and especially to underserved populations.

Sabrina has completed 700 hours of Yoga Teacher Training through School Yoga Institute and the Paramanand Institute of Yoga Sciences and Research; she learned Thai Yoga Massage through Hadadi Thai Massage in Lisbon, Portugal; she studied sacred space holding through the Kula Collective in Guatemala; she is currently completing a year-long Grief Facilitation Training with Through The Dark Woods based in B.C. and she has learned to use her gift of song through many ceremonies over the world.

For those based in Eugene OR, you can reach out to her for more information about her Thai Yoga Massage sessions at [email protected].

Support Group for Grief Tenders

Regular meet-up space in the virtual Village Hall

Grief tenders need support, too, and in this peer-led session just for grief tenders, we meet to help sustain each other, in a container just for and by grief tenders.

What this looks like will evolve, but one variation would be micro-rituals to help each other drop in and release grief or lean into joy. Another would be time to just talk about more logistical details around grief spaces, swap ideas, etc.

We are looking for volunteers to help coordinate & support the Grief Tender Support space (but not facilitate every time). Basically, the first step is to gather grief tenders together in the Village Hall and see what is needed/wanted. 

That person doesn't have to be a grief tender, per se, just good at facilitating groups. If you can help with that, please contact us using the form on the bottom right.

Some quotes that inspire us!

“We are born fully knowing how to grieve. We cry naturally to feel better, to unburden ourselves and take a few pounds off our shoulders and souls.

If there is a way for everyone to grieve openly, I believe it will also diminish the blaming and shaming that goes on between the races.”

Sobonfu Somé was the author of "The Spirit of Intimacy : Ancient African Teachings in the Ways of Relationships"

“Grief is praise, because it is the natural way love honors what it misses.

Grief expressed out loud, whether in or out of character, unchoreographed and honest, for someone we have lost, or a country or home we have lost, is in itself the greatest praise we could ever give them. ”

Martin Prechtel is the author of "The Smell of Rain on Dust."

“My daily practice is to wake and immediately bring my attention to this thought: 'I am one day closer to my death. So how will I live this day? How will I greet those I meet? How will I bring soul to each moment? I do not want to waste this day.' ”

Francis Weller is the author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief.

“Embrace your grief for there your soul will grow.”

Carl Jung

“The only way is by being in community that can feel, and grieve, and strategize, and celebrate. That's the only thing that actually sustains me.

I can only face things because I'm held, and because I'm also holding. Every time someone in our community is killed in this way, it reverberates.”

Prentis Hemphill is the author of "What It Takes to Heal"